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Question
Sir, I'm vikram, 25 years old. I'm trying to practice brahmacharya, but I can't do it. I've broad band internet connection at my house. I can't disconnect it, because it is given to me for education purposes by my father. I've the bad habit of watching porn in internet. I try to control myself and motivated to practice brahmacharya. But, that lasts for only 7 days. After 7 or 8 days I start watching porn again. Tell me any idea, so that I can eliminate my porn habit.
Thanks.
Answer
Hello Vikram,
Trust this finds you fine, Coming to the answer,
The following measures should help overcome watching of porn:
1. Install a good net-filter/web protection system such as 'BLUECOAT K9 WEB PROTECTION SYSTEM' to prevent access to forbidden content. It can be freely downloaded from the main site http://www1.k9webprotection.com/
Upon installation, ask someone you trust such as your father to choose a password. Let the password not be known to you. This will cut access to unwanted content on the net.
2. The internet, a powerful information highway has been made available to you by your father with the good assumption that you will improve your knowledge in all fronts and so as to help you fare better in your education. Misuse of the same for derogatory and perverse activities such as watching of porn amounts to hands on cheating and letting down the trust and love that your parents have reposed on you. It is the primal duty of students to cultivate good habits, excel in education, develop good health and strength and most importantly build a sound and respectable character so as to help themselves become worthy individuals. Watching porn will lead to irreparable damage at the physical, mental, emotional and psychic levels in course of time and cause decay and degeneration of the person beyond repair. Always remember this fact and take an oath to stay clear of porn and enforce it at all costs.
3. Wake up very early in the morning on a daily basis and indulge in regular physical activity/exercise/sports. This will convert sexual energy into health and strength and the tendency to waste the vital essence will diminish.
4. Stay clear of peer groups/friends who indulge in lustful talk/deeds. The company we maintain plays a very important role in deciding our line of thought, action and tendency. Practice of Brahmacharya is not possible if a man is addicted to such company or thought. One has to decide which path one wants to choose...The path of sensual pleasure and decay or the path of health, mental clarity and God bliss.
5. Indulge in God-meditation for about 15 minutes everyday to start with and pray to God to help you tide over the habit of watching porn with all sincerity and devotion. Within a few months of determined and honest efforts, God will undoubtedly extend his helping hand. But the intention, desire and efforts taken to establish absolute Brahmacharya must be very sincere and true. Based on our efforts we can without doubt expect an equal and matching degree of support from God.
6. Give up the act of masturbation all at once. Wastage of seminal energy will strengthen the tendency for more wastage and finally drive man into premature old age and incurable disease.
Kindly go through all the past answers on this portal to get a deeper understanding of Brahmacharya, its benefits and ways to achieve it.
With serious and sustained effort, success will slowly start to trickle
God bless and have a nice day :-)
Dhananjay