Awaiting Marriage
Question
Dear Sir,
I am just not able to get married. Even though I have strived to desist from negative relief, in the hope that God will bless me with a good home before I am too old, no girl is coming in my life. So much frustration from loneliness. I understand that I should forget all this and focus on the Self but the above mentioned seems to be a legitimate desire. Why am I suffering? Isn't it better to take a permanent decision to discard marriage intentions like Shree Modiji, sannyasis etc. rather than to have false hope?
Thanking you with humility and appreciation.
Answer
1. Let go of the one who wants or doesn't want. That which remains is the Atman (self). That is meditation.
2. To decide or not decide, to want or not want etc. are the causes of suffering. This is the mistake.
When one does not have control over these things, why should he indulge and suffer? Things go as per a predestined plan, as governed by the Almighty. If marriage is on the cards, it will transpire at the destined time. Else, it will not. One should remain neutral and not be for or against. That alone leads to the Supreme state.
ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)