Astral connections & wet dreams
Question
Dear Dhananjay,
How are you the replies you give to the readers are simply excellent and i am a regular reader. I am on my 19th day of my Brahmachary and i am happy coz i was having voluntary and involuntary slip nearly 4-5 times after a period of 9 or l0 days and iam now in my 19th day my only inspiration are your replies and the blessings of almighty thanks a lot, I have some questions from your replies and the last nights experience. Coming to my questions.
I was in relationship with a girl past 6 years we had very deep longing to get married. Last year she got married to some other as she didn't want to hurt her parents and go against their will.Since the time i was in relationsip i had dreams that we are married and having a happy family, in that dreams i was having wet dreams coz they are that deep,yesterday i had the same dream and i was in full control and the wet dream didn't happen since then i was very disturbed and thanked god not to have a wet dream as a result. so my doubts are...
1.If we were in relationship and willingly or unwillings we broke do the astral connection between the bodies still exist and do they result in dreams or anything which pose a obstacle to brahmacharya.
2.In your previous reply you were saying dont let the thought convert into lust resulting in preserved semen becomes lifeless and if we have some thoughts and it does not result in wet dream then can we assure ourselfs that we are safe as the thought was not stong.
Thanking your for your kindly response to the readers and you being the inspiration for us beginners.
Ganapathi.
Answer
1. A long and deep relationship involving frequent sexual intercourse results in a strong astral tube between the people involved. Less frequent sexual intercourse results in a less stronger astral tube. It generally takes 12 years for the astral tube of sexual intercourse to fully dissolve provided contact is not re-established.
A relationship which did not involve sex but involved other physical contact does not produce an astral tube but results in a less serious astral connection which may last a year or two. Since these tubes and connections transmit feelings and emotions, the possibility of one reacting to this effect does exist. At such times, the Brahmachari has to fight against these feelings and guard his state of purity without succumbing. Past Karma is to be borne and worked out. The initial period hence is a little difficult. There is no other way.
Practice of a life of Yoga (waking up at 4.00 A.M, sathwic diet, Bandha, Nadi Shodhana, Pranayama) with honest Brahmacharya and God-meditation helps overcome this connection more effectively. Such a Brahmachari has a better chance of coping with the matter on hand.
2. One never knows when lustful thoughts if let to grow big, translate into wet dreams or even masturbation in the beginner. Hence one should never let such thoughts grow into desire and contemplation. Any incidence of thought being let to flower into lust and passion poses the possibility of resulting in a wet dream sooner or later. Sometimes wet dreams do not occur for a certain period but suddenly occur all of a sudden.
The only way out is to work hard at maintaining purity and put in true effort with sincerity in God-meditation. Long hours of meditation convert Veerya (semen) into Ojas and dry it up. So one should meditate on the Supreme as much as possible after performing Yogic practices and even at other times, whenever possible.
ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)