Loneliness

QUESTION: Is a life of brahmacharya and God-centric life doomed to be  lonely?
Many times I am not able to mix with people freely and also form new close relationships as I don't find any truthfulness or purity in them.....Is there any such thing as a pure relationship at all in the world?
Is the loneliness a result of some of our own short comings or due to the brahmacharya practice? Or is this only a passing phase.....
Please advice....

ANSWER: 1. A completely pure relationship can exist only between two Jiva-s who are very spiritually advanced and see each other with pure love as embodiments of the Almighty, expecting nothing in return from each other. With all others, relationships are driven by need, expectation, profit or some other benefit and hence cannot be termed pure.

2. The sudden loneliness that one encounters during the first year or two is a reaction and a passing phase. After one gets established in unbroken practice and meditation, the aspirant derives great bliss in solitude and wishes to spend such time in meditation. Then, one craves for such solitude and constantly wishes to get back to deep meditation.

ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)

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QUESTION: Then what about such relationships with parents, wife, son , daughter, brothers, sisters,friends,etc, etc.
Are they also not true or there is no love in them?
These people matter more to one than some remote God or some advanced spiritual beings, who don't care for you or you cannot even talk/see them.

ANSWER: | रुणानुबन्धरूपेण पशु पत्नि सुतालयः ||

" Runa - (Past debt) takes the form of animals (which one owns), wife, children, house (property) etc."

Based on one's past karma and karmic dues that are to be settled with other Jiva-s, these Jiva-s appear in one or more lifetimes through various relationships. Once the karma is settled, they leave (out of one's life through separation, death etc.)

1. Knowing it to be such, one should develop an attitude of pure love towards everyone, trying not to expect anything in return. In other words, one should remember that God is serving and supporting us through the near and dear ones.

2. When the mother carries, delivers and brings up her child, the Lord is serving that Jiva (child) through the mother (while she herself does not know it).

When a person on the street helps us get up when we slip and fall offering us a glass of water, the Lord is serving us through that person etc. (while that person himself does not know it)

3. When such an attitude of seeing the Almighty behind each and every force is developed, one never feels lonely, for he eventually develops the ability to see God in all animate and inanimate objects. Neither does such a person get attached to people, for he see's through the impermanent body, mind, ego of the other person etc. (which are all false) into the everlasting and Godly Atman within.

4. The relationships involving people (such as with a good wife, parents etc.) are a mix of 'Avidya' (denoted by attachment, possessiveness, selfish needs etc.) and 'Vidya' (pure traits which come from the Lord within). When people knowingly/unknowingly connect to the other person with a pure and non-expecting perspective, pure love from the God within that Jiva flows out. When the lower traits surface, lower emotions take charge and it can be assumed that the individual ego is at work. This explains the varied behavior of the same person at different times.

5. When a person becomes highly spiritually advanced, more and more of purity from the Lord shines through and less of impurity shows as such impurity has been negated to a large extent. Such a person then exhibits more of universal love and higher traits towards one and all. This is what is meant by saying that spiritual advancement leads to true love towards the whole world, for that person has started seeing the imperishable Lord in everything.

6. It is incorrect to say that advanced spiritual beings do not care for us. They work silently and remotely doing that which one is destined to receive from them. But for such grace, one should first prove oneself to be deserving through self-effort.

ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)

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QUESTION: Thanks for the reply!
This gives a more deeper perspective on relationships...
I can understand something on "runa" with people, but what is Runa with property? I thought we can have relationships and debts only with people and not with inanimate objects like property,etc....
Can you elaborate on this?